Let go to Let in – Take control

As my childhood memory, I remember the time when every last Sunday of the month was reserved for cleaning/decluttering activities in my house. De-cluttering the junk, clearing out a bunch of things that were no longer used or needed, and literally rubbing the furniture with cleaners & cloths until it shines and sparkles.

I always wondered, “why do we have to this de-clutter”? I mean, it’s perfect the way it is. Look at that pretty (okay, not so pretty) (I agree, ugly) junk drawer full (to the extent that it is not even closing anymore) with chocolate wrappers, useless advertisement mails, broken screwdrivers, coins from last century, melted birthday candles, and information flyers that were so worn out that they look literally like a cryptic code to a hidden treasure. And across all countries, cultures, and class there is one thing we share – that amazing chest of garbage bag emergencies!!!

Obviously, my only purpose and need to declutter back then was to make it look nice and clean. But now when I look back and think about this childhood activity which gave me immense pleasure and joy was actually me not decluttering things but letting them go…Letting go is not about giving up, it is about taking control…It is about making a decision to keep things that serve you, it is about focusing on what’s important to you, it is about creating space for new things that will make you better. Sounds too deep? let’s break this down…

Letting go is often looked as psychological or spiritual phenomena. But if we look at the crux of it, many companies use it in their organizational practices. For e.g. Delegation. Trust me delegation is no different than letting go. Yes, it is an act of assigning responsibility to someone else, but one can only do that (successfully) when one gets completely rid of hanging on to that activity which is now not hers/his. An interesting management study on delegation found that close to half of the 300 companies surveyed were concerned about their employees’ delegation skills. And one of the top reasons for not delegating is the fear of letting go. This is because letting go is usually associated with either losing control or losing self-confidence.

Letting go, in true essence, is the most powerful asset you can have. Letting go for me are these two simple things:

1. Let go of the fear that controls your power to make choices, decisions, and take actions. Instead, take control by letting in new things that serve your purpose. While letting go may sound emotional, intuitive, and subjective, take control by calculating the effects of what you are letting in next. Key point: it does not imply letting go or giving up on your dreams (never). It implies to moving forward or moving past the hurdles that are stopping you from chasing your dreams.

2. Let go of the thinking of what others think of you. Decide for yourself. Take what you need and just dive in. PS: when I was contemplating writing my first blog, the only fear I had was of what would others think of me, my views, opinions, and perspectives. But trust me when I took the leap and just dove in, that feeling of accomplishment, feeling of trusting your gut, and the confidence that changes into self-efficacy is truly worth it. Don’t expect anything in return, just keep going.

So who’s ready to declutter the junk compartment of their brain, mind, or body and take on the new? Who’s ready to let go to let in and create space for something good, interesting, exciting, and uplifting. Perhaps, it may not be better than what you had, but you will certainly have a different experience and who knows you will find a different you!

4 thoughts on “Let go to Let in – Take control

  1. Nicely Written!!
    Simple facts which are deep!
    We should decluster our Past, worries, fear.
    As you mentioned just we have to take a leap of faith first for letting go all the brain junk and decluster it..


    1. Yeah, know what your purpose is i.e. to know what you are doing and why, and then believe in it by taking a leap of faith. Letting go helps in decluttering things that don’t (rather shouldn’t) need your attention.
      Thanks a lot!
      Please keep reading!


  2. Neha,

    This is amazing! It makes me think about all the old clutter I carry around in my head.. and in the house. You hit the nail on the head that the only way to make room for new is to part with the old things that are just taking up space in all aspects of your life.

    Really enjoyed this!!


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